Turning him on isn’t just about a certain part of his anatomy. A plunging neckline, a knowing smile and a little cheeky little glance can go a long way!
1. The approach technique: making him forget all about his previous desires and sending him an invitation that will make him go weak at the knees. It all starts from here: once he’s aroused, even the slightest gesture on your part will feel like a prelude to uncontainable pleasure for him!
Take your time and make him wait; this will make him want you all the more. Don’t give in to what your body is telling you on your first night together; make him understand you’re interested. jsut don’t go for a full-on explosion the first time. It will be worth it in the end!
You could try these techniques: Get him to sit on the bed and forbid him to touch you until you say so. All he can do is watch. Wearing suitably sexy, skimpy clothing (sexy undies, heels and his shirt make a good combo), give him a brief but potent striptease and maybe touch yourself slowly. Men are obsessed with female masturbation and see it as an ultimate fantasy, and he’s sure to find it arousing. It’s up to you to decide when he can join in…
2.Keep The Lights On: Men love to look at beautiful women, so why deprive them of what they want to see? Stop turning the lights out (a few candles are fine!) and allow him the pleasure of looking at you.
Highlight your best assets: arch your back, part your legs slightly, take your bra off and don’t cross your arms over your chest! And don’t keep your eyes closed: enjoy watching the show. Meeting each other’s gazes is a real turn-on too.
3. Thrill him: Like women, men don’t just get their thrills from one place: they have several erogenous zones (areas of the body which produce sexual arousal when stimulated). And they often lament the fact that we don’t pay enough attention to them! So get to know them and you’ll be able to explore them using all the different techniques: kissing, caressing, nibbling, sucking, licking, ticking and the rest.
Everything (or almost everything!) except his genitals…
The lips, neck and, for some, the ears can detonate real thrills. And don’t forget the interior of his thighs, where his skin is very delicate, his nipples if he likes them being touched, and, of course, his bum. You love looking at at, so why not pay it more attention in bed? Touch, massage and tickle his bum with a feather. You’ll tell from his reaction he’s enjoying it!
Our Suggestion: every time you get to one of his erogenous zones, ask him if he likes it. His little moans of contentment will tell you if you’ve hit the spot! Relax him (and get easy access) by going for his G spot while you give him oral sex or a hand job with your other hand.
4.Expressing your desires and pleasure here. It will encourage him and give him useful directions to take you to the clouds above. For shy types, little sighs of satisfaction and handy pointers, as simple as “here, there, higher, right there” are a step on the way! More verbal types can let him know he’s doing it right with cries of ecstasy, and can give more specific instructuions such as: “I love it when you touch my breasts” or “It drives me crazy when you put your hands there” or “I love it when you kiss me down there.” You get the picture.
Our sugestion: Don’t give him military orders! You don’t want to scare him off or scare him out of doing what you want im to do. And if he’s a delicate, romantic flower then talking dirty might not sound like music to his sensitive ears!
5.Completely and Totally Trust Him:Despite the image they often give out, all men have their doubts about their sexual prowess and could lose their cool in front of a woman who comes over as highly sexual. They need reassurance! Flatter him by showing him he’s the only object of your desire and the only man on Earth who can turn you on like he does. Compliment the way he touches you and show him you’re in ecstasy when he hits the spot. He’ll never want to leave a woman who values him…
If you’re over-aggressive or too direct, not only will you scare him but it could all be over too quickly – and speedy, unsatisfying sex leaves you with a feeling of frustration. Learn to touch him gently and don’t go straight for the obvious! Men like a gentle approach too. Caress his thighs ever so gently, let your fingers wander over his neck, hold his hand and take things slowly.
Our advice: Don’t ever get motherly with him. Reassuring him is good; mothering him, however, is not. There’s nothing guaranteed to send him bolting for the door quicker than talking to him like a kid. Example: “It’s all right sweetheart, you’re doing really well.” Argh!
6.Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move: Men often complain that they’re always the ones who have to the first move for sex and they’d appreciate us jumping on them (or at least showing a bit of initiative once in a while). So take the plunge and let him know you’re up for it. Sometimes a long look and a knowing smile is enough to get the message across…
But at other times we do need to be a bit more explicit. Try whispering: “I want you” covertly in his ear while you’re out with friends, sending him a cheeky text message at work, or letting your hands wander all over him while you’re watching TV, to make your intentions crystal clear! If you’re shy about it, a long deep lingering kiss is the first step to the bedroom!
Our advice: Choose the right moment to be the one to make the first move. If he’s just had a run-in with his boss, he’s probably not going to be in the mood. If he’s glued to the Cup Final, it’s a no-no: don’t ever try and compete with football. When you sense he’s calm, receptive and relaxed, take the opportunity to show him you’re happy to make the first move.