I just started seeing this guy, and I really like him so far. He’s very sweet and kind, as far as I can tell, and doesn’t seem like the type to get aggressive with anyone. We have so much in common and he’s really funny.
Last night, we had sex for the first time and it was a lot rougher than I’ve ever experienced before.. like he was pulling my hair and choking me, and he did all this without any warning. Then he asked me if I “liked it rough” and when I responded “kinda” he slapped me across the face. I was really shocked and unsure what to do because he kept just having sex with me. That wasn’t at all what I meant by “rough sex” and I feel like that’s something that you don’t do to someone without knowing it’s what they want.
I have been choked during sex before but never as hard as I was choke last night. I mean, I kinda like it rough but not that rough.
I can’t tell if he slapped me because he thought that’s what I wanted or because he wanted to do it. I know he just got out of a relationship so he might be transferring his ex’s sexual preferences onto me.
Should this be some kind of warning sign that he isn’t as nice as I think? Or do you think that simply telling him that I’m not into that sort of stuff will be enough?